Saturday, June 28, 2008

Death of Loved Ones

Death of a loved ones is the most difficult challenge and a heart-breaking experience ever thus a person has to face. I don’t really know how it feels to lose a loved one, but I had seen and heard what it can do to a person.

My cousin lost her youngest 5 year old son when the her child accidentally drowned during my other cousin's beach party celebration. My cousin and her husband left in their house during that time. The child was accompanied by his grandmother, the child's older brother and sister to attend the party. The child used to play alone and during that time he played along the sea side for about 2 ft deep with his snorkel and goggles. The child was left unattended without expecting the 2 ft deep of water might drowned him to death, while others having fun playing beach games and the old folks were busy preparing for their lunch.
A situation got everybody's attention when somebody shouted for a help. At that time they never expect of a terrible situation would might come to one of their family members until saw a man executing CPR to the child they knew. Everyone was shocked and felt responsible of letting the child play alone and unattended but everything was too late for him to be revived. He was rushed to the nearby hospital but never survived and declared DOA- Dead on Arrival.
One thing that hurts my cousin much was that she was never got the chance of seeing her child alive or even saying word of goodbyes. At first she was never been told exactly about the accident and just advised to come immediately to the hospital. As she comes and heard the doctor's declaration of her child's death; she cried so much and even wanted to give up on her own life too. The pain was so tangible at her but we have nothing to do to help pave her pain, and that we couldn’t stop ourselves but to cry with her too.

Death of the loved ones leaves a heartache no one can heal. The love leaves a memory no one can steal. However, as what my cousin did was, she never blamed people to be the responsible of her child's death. Her family took the situation as a test of their faith of how strong they were in the Lord during their hardest time.

Entrusting yourself and believing to God to take over your heart. The only thing that keeps their heart strong are the words found in the BIBLE.
Jeremiah 29:11, says “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to proper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”.
And James 1:12, says “Blessed is the man who perseveres under trials because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life”.

Life is found in the present moment. There is a past, which is gone forever, but there is a future, which is, stills our own. I know, there are no justice in silence. Moreover, blaming people makes a situation more complicated and the more hurting continues.

•In addition, if this situation comes to you, how will you handle yourself?

•Will you do the same thing to what my cousin did by simply blaming nobody as responsible to the situation?

•Is justice more important than losing a relationship with some of your family members?


Tootsie said...

wow, that is really touching. You really did a good job.